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Archive for February, 2013

The perfect gentleman

One of the qualities I appreciate the most is kindness, very rarily have I come across a man that writes in a way that I do – open, honest, thoughtful… I met this guy called Stephen about two years ago, we went out on just one date, and shortly after I became ill through stress and I wasn’t in the right place to continue dating. I often think I missed out on a great opportunity. His email that he sent when I was ill always makes me smile, this is the sweetest thing I’ve ever received – his girlfriend is a lucky woman 🙂

Dear Abi,

I just wanted to write you a little note to wish you and your father well. It has been a while since we were last in touch, I know, but I do often think of how you are doing, and hope that your father has been feeling better.

My life has been getting better, bit by bit.  I have a lot more music students now, and have also been doing some writing and copyediting work to keep busy.  I am staying away from the Middle East as it was depressing me, and away from London as I increasingly felt the shallowness and emptiness of so many relationships and lives there–and life is too short not to seek one’s happiness.  I have plenty to do here, and a life to build.  That’s enough.

I really liked meeting you and had hoped to meet up again and get to know you and perhaps your family, but it never seemed to me like your heart was in it, and I didn’t want to feel bad or unwanted anymore– and as you are also eager to have a family, I didn’t want to waste your time further.  In any case, I met someone last month, a professional photographer, who is quite nice– and she has two lovely children with whom I get along very well. They are very sweet and ask me lots of science and music questions, and we all spend a lot of time together in the country, so I am quite happy 🙂  If I can’t have my own children, I am happy to build a family around someone else, if there is love and kindness there.  That’s what matters the most.

Again, I just wanted to say that I am wishing you both well, and hope very much that you will find the happiness and the family you seek.

Exam Stress makes me happy

I feel like a teenager all over again, exams are looming and I’m frantically cramming as much as I can. Worked extremely hard over the last couple of months, and although I have no time for anything but work, study and chores, I’m relishing the challenge.

I don’t think I’ll ever want to stop learning, age hasn’t affected my memory, it’s still as sharp as ever (there are times when I wish I could just switch off from thinking too much!). An elderly gentleman on the bus inspired me the other day (a Chemistry teacher in his seventies), we frequently bump into each other, ‘never stop learning’ he told me – totally agree.

I still haven’t got my replacement phone, although I find myself less distracted without it, my nephew’s videos I’d end up playing over and over again (love watching him develop). I managed to survive my youth without a mobile, so I certainly can now. See how long I can go without it!

Lost my iPhone

I hate how I’ve become so dependent on my iPhone – it tells me when my next bus is due, read the news/emails and see videos of my nephew.

Now I have to wait until I decide whether I’ll get a replacement iPhone or go for an android phone – decisions!

Science Museum Lates: Science of the heart

Haven’t been to one of these in soo long, may end up going on Wednesday 27th February.

Science Musuem Lates

Science Musuem Lates

Lengha & Sari’s

I very rarely wear tradional Asian clothes, reserved for weddings. I prefer Lengha’s as they’re a lot easier to put on and walk in!

Lengha

Lengha

Lengha

Lengha

Pink Sari

Pink Sari

ASOS Pencil Skirt in Rose Jacquard

How cute is this yellow high-waisted skirt from ASOS? This is perfect for the warmer months teamed with a three quarter length white shirt and sandals.

ASOS Pencil Skirt in Rose Jacquard

ASOS Pencil Skirt in Rose Jacquard

ASOS Pencil Skirt in Rose Jacquard

ASOS Pencil Skirt in Rose Jacquard

 

Gap Colourblock Striped Tunic – Spring 2013

I saw this instore but the XS looked a bit big on me, I was happy to see that they do an even smaller size online XXS (finally!) This is a great weekend piece with a pair of skinny jeans, and I do like the turquoise colour.

I’m glad that there seems to be more brands catering for smaller sizes (even M&S), when I was a teenager the smallest size I could get was an 8 and an XS. This is not me promoting being skinny, I do eat three meals and snacks a day, but unfortunately, I’m naturally slim (there are times when I wish I had curves!) but being happy about finding clothes that finally fit!

Gap Colourblock Striped Tunic

Gap Colourblock Striped Tunic